With a constant state of nausea and limited abilities as a tired, pregnant momma I often feel defeated around the house. Things just aren't in my normal flow, and my ability to keep up is stunted.
I do spend the maximum amount of time with Adeline and Gideon as possible so I decided to take control of that and work on some behavior issues with them.
Adeline recently got her own gemstone jar.
Gemstone jar is a pretty special thing around here.
We got some glass gems at Hobby Lobby along with a jar.
She picked out some stickers to decorate it, and I took a paint pen and drew on some goals.
It's pretty simple as she does something good, kind, productive etc. she gets a gem.
If she does something wrong, unkind, or disobedient she gets a gem removed.
If she fills up her jar to the first level we can go out for ice cream.
The second level we'll take her to the park.
The third level she can go to the store and pick out something of her choice.
The incentives really appeal to her, and to remove a gem stone for bad behavior is really a blow for her.
She would get more gemstones removed than she would earn in a day.
I figured this was fine for her and more incentive to more good than bad, and then I realized that maybe I'm focusing too much on the bad behavior of my three year old, and not encouraging her enough for the positive behavior.
So now she gets a gemstone for unexpected kindness like sharing her snack with brother, or saying thank you to a grown up all on her own, or remembering to wash her hands without being told after she uses the bathroom. She's feeling a real sense of pride and responsibility and it's become a really rewarding system for us in the two weeks we've used it.
I do admit that I kind of abuse it every now in then. For example, last night when I could only find one flip-flop I said, "Find Mommy's other shoe for a gemstone!!!" Man that flip-flop appeared almost as fast as I asked for it.
Haha, oh well.
I can't wait to see how little Selah's personality fits in. I pray every day for a peaceful baby, and no matter what personality God's graced her with I really hope she's a peaceful newborn like her brother was. ;)
Anyway, I hope you all have a blessed day! We've had such a crazy busy week and we're off now to meet a new play group. Tomorrow we have a different play group date, and I'm painting with my friend Dawn and some of her friends tomorrow night. Friday is our lifegroup bible study and then onto a full weekend.
Hopefully I can find some time in there to do some reading and work on my embroidery project.
The finished product looks amazing in my head, so uh I just need to start.
Blessings and lots of love out to you!